Jack Stone
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When he isn’t writing about tips and tricks to make your next date night truly memorable, you can find Jack reading through yet another pile of sci-fi novels — or trying to find an excuse to buy some more.
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Looking for new things to do as a couple? You’re in the right place. Every couple with a curated to-do list has instant access to experiences that create wonderful memories, bring you closer together, and say “I love you” with more than just words. But every great to-do list needs to start somewhere.
From cozy nights at home to spontaneous adventures, here are 23 couple activities to add to your Cupla To Do list, so you always have a little adventure in your back pocket.
Things to Do as a Couple at Home
- Have a tech-free day. Switch off your phones, unplug the TV, ditch anything that beeps or buzzes, and spend a day together exploring the lower-tech side of life. Research shows that “phubbing” (snubbing your partner for your phone) chips away at relationship satisfaction, so a full day unplugged is a genuine reset.
- Cook dinner together. Teach each other your favourite meals or try something brand new. It’s dinner, a date, and entertainment all rolled into one!
- Have an in-home spa day. Break out the face masks, the massage oil, and the freshly laundered towels. An in-home spa day (complete with cucumber slices on the eyes) is relaxing for both of you and builds a closer physical connection too.
- Learn a duet together. Even if you can’t sing, find a song you both love (or love to hate) that has two parts. Think Bonnie Tyler and Meatloaf, Aladdin and Jasmine, Sonny and Cher. Belt them out karaoke style and reeeeaaaally reach for those high notes.
- Create your own signature cocktail. Signature cocktails are a staple of modern weddings, but you don’t have to be getting married to make one! It’s a great way to learn each other’s tastes, and you get plenty of taste testing as a bonus.
- Get a close shave. Here’s one for couples with oodles of trust. Get your partner to play barber and give you a shave, the closer the better. It’s weird, it’s funny, but it’s always a close, intimate experience.
Fun Things to Do as a Couple Outdoors
- Have a picnic. It’s a classic for a reason! Find a bright, clear day and a spot with a view and enjoy some al fresco dining.
- Take a spontaneous road trip. Got nowhere you want to go? Good news: they’re called road trips, not road destinations. Pick a spot, load up the car, and go exploring with nothing between you but a center console and nothing ahead but open road.
- Take a workout class together. Couples that lift don’t drift! Pull on your best workout clothes and hit the gym together for a quick hit of dopamine (and a great excuse for a post-gym shared shower).
- Go wine tasting. Explore new flavours and find new favourites together. Local wineries aren’t required: randomly selected bottles from your closest supermarket work just as well.
- Conquer a fear together. Few feelings beat overcoming something terrifying, and one of them is overcoming it with your partner at your side. Snakes, heights, public speaking: smash those phobias together and you’ll both come out stronger.
Romantic Things to Do as a Couple
- Recreate your first date. Whether you’ve been together for 10 months or 10 years, going back to where it all began is a fun way to reminisce and appreciate how far you’ve come.
- Write mutual love letters. It’s one thing to say “I love you” and another to write it down. Go into different rooms, write from the heart, exchange letters, and feel the glow. Bonus points if you read them out loud!
- Learn to tango. So you think you can dance? Prove it by learning one of the spiciest ways to groove with your partner.
- Explore your Love Languages. You and your partner might express love in completely different ways. Take an evening to explore the five Love Languages together and uncover how each of you says “I love you”. Speaking your partner’s language builds a noticeably stronger connection.
- Make a sex bucket list. Time to turn up the heat. Explore the fantasies and desires you’ve both always wanted to try. Not great at “talking dirty”? Try one of these apps designed for couples to break down those walls and start the journey towards even better intimacy.
Meaningful Couple Activities That Build Your Bond
- Visit each other’s hometowns. Your hometown holds a huge amount of meaning for you. Share that part of your past with your partner and forge a deeper bond.
- Create a couple’s scrapbook. When you can take a million photos and never run out of storage, the images that really matter get buried. Set aside some time to distil your memories into the moments that count.
- Start a new tradition. Whether it’s a nightly ritual before bed or a mandatory Christmas movie (no matter how much people pretend to groan), starting a tradition together is a powerful bonding tool.
- Volunteer together. Doing good feels good, and bringing your partner along doubles the doing and the feeling. That makes it at least twice as good: that’s just math.
- Find a new shared hobby. How many couples were brought together by a mutual love of something? Hobbies are powerful things! According to relationship psychology research, trying novel activities together is one of the most reliable ways to reignite excitement in a relationship, so exploring a new hobby is a fantastic to-do for any couple.
Social Things to Do as a Couple
- Go on a double date. The only thing better than a great date night is a great date night with your closest friends. Grab a buddy and their partner and hit the town together.
- Host a couples’ games night. Did you know that collaboration is one of the key elements of a strong relationship? Bust out a board game and battle other couples with your partner on your side. You’ll feel your bond strengthen with every roll of the dice.
How to Actually Do the Things on Your Couple To-Do List
Ideas are one thing, doing them is another. The couples who get through their list aren’t the most spontaneous ones, they’re the ones who plan. Here’s a simple system:
- Add every idea that excites you both to a shared to-do list, so nothing gets forgotten
- Pick one activity at the start of each month and put it in your shared calendar
- Keep a mix of “big” plans (road trips, hometown visits) and “small” wins (cooking together, love letters) so there’s always something achievable
- Tick items off together and look back at what you’ve done: it’s a scrapbook in list form
FAQ: Things to Do as a Couple
What are fun things to do as a couple at home?
Cook a new recipe together, host an in-home spa day, learn a duet, invent a signature cocktail, or have a tech-free day. At-home couple activities work best when you make them intentional: put them on the calendar and treat them like a real date, not a backup plan.
What are free things to do as a couple?
Plenty of couple activities cost nothing: write love letters, have a picnic with food from home, recreate your first date, start a new tradition, volunteer together, or explore your Love Languages. Connection comes from shared attention and novelty, not from how much money you spend.
How do couples find new things to do together?
Keep a shared to-do list where you both add ideas as they come up, from articles, friends, or spontaneous inspiration. Then schedule one idea each month in a shared calendar. Couples who plan activities in advance follow through far more often than couples who wait for free time to appear.
Why is trying new things important in a relationship?
Novel, exciting activities trigger the same dopamine response you felt early in your relationship, which researchers link to renewed passion and higher relationship satisfaction. Shared new experiences also build teamwork and give you fresh memories together, keeping the relationship growing instead of running on autopilot.
Turn Your Couple To-Do List Into Real Quality Time
Now you’ve got 23 things to do as a couple, the only thing left is to make time for them. That’s where Cupla comes in: the shared calendar and to-do list app designed exclusively for couples. With automatic schedule sync and in-app reminders, Cupla makes sure there’s always time to try a new to-do. Trial it now for free on iOS and Android.
