10 Books For Couples To Read Together


Are you looking for books to read together as a couple? We’ve pulled together the ultimate list for you.

You might be wondering why you should read books together as a couple.

First off, reading is fun! It helps take you to places you would otherwise be unable to journey to. It’s also an incredible way to discover more about yourself and the world around you. But the benefits of reading go beyond boosting your brain health and reducing stress… reading together can improve your relationship! In fact, research shows that couples who read together, become closer together. How? Couples grow closer together when they share new thoughts and ideas – discussing what they’ve learnt together. It’s why we’ve pulled together a range of books that are perfect for couples.

Whether you want to learn more about yourself or the ways you and your partner approach relationships – here are 10 of the best books for couples to read together.


By Amir Levine, M.D. and Rachel S. F. Heller, M.A.

Attached covers the different attachment styles people might have and how they impact experiences in a romantic relationship. Amir Levine and Rachel Heller cover one of three different basic attachment styles: anxious, avoidant, or secure. They explore why some people seem to navigate relationships effortlessly, while others seem to struggle. In our opinion, this is essential reading for all couples!

Hold Me Tight

By Dr. Sue Johnson

Hold Me Tight is another book focused on attachment theory. Only this time it explores tools that are great for high-conflict couples. With over one million copies sold, this book blends the best in research findings with practical suggestions from a caring and compassionate clinician. It has stories from Dr Johnson’s clinical practice with couples, helpful advice and practical exercises to help you grow your relationship.

Mating in Captivity

By Esther Perel

Esther Perel is a renowned New York City therapist and one of the most respected voices on erotic intelligence. Drawing on more than twenty years of experience as a couples therapist, she explores the complexities of sustaining desire in a long-term relationship. In Mating in Captivity, Esther delves into how to sustain exciting, playful sex in a long-term relationship.

“Mating in Captivity takes a hard line against one of the most time-honored institutions in human history: the sexless marriage”¦It reads like a cross between the works of Jacques Lacan and French Women Don’t Get Fat.” “” The New Yorker

The 5 Love Languages

By Dr. Gary Chapman

In The 5 Love Languages, Dr. Gary Chapman takes you through a Couple’s Personal Profile Assessment to help you and your partner determine what your preferred love language is. If you’ve ever heard people talk about physical touch, words of affirmation, quality time, acts of service and gifts as their love languages – it’s all thanks to Dr. Gary Chapman. Dive in as a couple and read this book to discover what your love languages are, so that you can grow closer together.

I Love You But I Don’t Trust You

By Mira Kirshenbaum

Many things can lead to mistrust in a relationship, whether it is seemingly small white lies or cheating and betrayal, whatever it is – a loss of trust that isn’t addressed can wreck havoc on your relationship. Mira Kirshenbaum takes readers through how to regain trust, avoid the mistakes that impede healing and lead you and your partner back to feeling secure in your relationship.

Reigniting The Spark

By Dr. Bruce Chalmer

In Reigniting the Spark, couples therapist Dr. Bruce Chalmer shares real-life case studies based on couples he’s helped to discuss some of the common issues couples face. Read this book to learn how to build a relationship with your partner that is full of passion, better sex and tips to avoid pointless arguments.

The Relationship Cure

By Dr. John Gottman

Dr. Gottman is an incredible writer and expert on relationships. In The Relationship Cure, he shares a 5-step program for improving any of relationships, not just romantic relationships. Focused on the “bid for connection” theory, he claims it is the fundamental skill that sets successful couples apart from the rest.

Getting the Love You Want

By Harville Hendrix, Ph.D. & Helen LaKelly Hunt PhD

The Normal Bar

By Chrisanna Northrup, Pepper Schwartz and James Witte

Based on data collected from close to 100,000 respondents, this book is the ultimate resource for couples who want to learn the relationship-tested ways they can achieve satisfaction and contentment in areas such as communication, sex, affection, and financial cooperation. It mixes savvy insights and science into a book that will make you laugh while you learn.

So, why not pick one or two of these books to read together over the next few months to grow closer together? Read a few pages together in bed. Or each choose a book to read and catch up over a dinner date (planned on Cupla!) to discuss what you’ve learnt!

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